Sincere Frustration!!!

It has been since March 15th that my grand daughter has moved out of our home with her Mommy.  The split up between my son and Kellie has been weighing heavy on me, it is ugly when it shouldn't be.  It is amazing how you think you know someone until they do something like this.

Anyone who has known me, knows that I love Kellie to pieces, thought of her as the daughter I never had.  She and I did everything together and we talked at length about everything possible.  But she has become so mean and cold-hearted that I can not wrap my brain around it.

I just had to express my feelings here, as I am doing my best to hold back my feelings for Mariah and David's sake.

This is for you Kellie!

I sat through strife and tears,

While the world beat you down,

I was there to lift you up and get your back,

When friends were nowhere to be found

You assured me you were better than them,

You’d never behave like that.

But today you have become no different,

Now that you wear a different hat.

Funny how you say and do

Such very different things,

You defend each action with conviction

So no one knows what you really mean.

If this is who you were all the along,

I can no longer be sad to see you go.

If this is what lies beneath your face,

You are not the person I could have known.

I have to say goodbye today,

To the person I saw grow,

The person I believed you had become,

And the new person I have come to know.

© Debbie Heisler ~ 2013

Life's IS A Hoot!

Photography has become quite a passion for me.  I am still quite an amateur, but I find it relaxing, fun and rewarding.  I started by working with my grand daughter.  She is was a boutique model and needed to have professional quality photography for her assignments.  

Lately, she hasn't been modeling, but since she has been doing it for so many years (and she is only 3), she is very comfortable in front of the camera.  In fact, I find that she asks ME to take her out and take pictures.  I think she loves getting new outfits for the shoots too!

These are just a few of the fun shoots that we have had.  But, lately, I have been working with others too.  I recently did one for my husband, son and Mariah.  It was super fun with the 3 of them;

And over the past month or so, I have experimented with others...this family was a riot and I think they encompass exactly what "Life's A Hoot" really means!

There have been some great times with these photos.  I will share more on another blog, but I am super grateful for having the time to learn and grow.  I am still learning, but will surely never put down the camera now!

Big thanks to the SnapKnot wedding photography directory for offering this great camera giveaway!  I probably wouldn't have written this post if not for them.

My Life or My Work?

My Life or My Work?

It is not a topic that we like to discuss or even think about, but my job is not safe!  As you browse the Real Estate ads in your local paper, or pass by a home with a real estate sign in the yard, you don't see that as a potential for danger, but I do.  I see every aspect of my chosen profession as a danger, so that I am prepared to handle a situation if one arises.

I respect your home, I respect your desire to purchase a home and I hope you respect my right to protect myself from harm.

After a recent attack on a Realtor just a few miles away from the community I work, I decided to make Realtor Safety a matter of utmost important today.  This could be said about any profession that takes you out into the public, even a door-to-door sales person must take safety seriously!

My work is my life!  I love my job. I live my job. When you have passion for you what do, you put your all into it.  My job makes me a public figure in many ways.  I am plastered all over the internet for all to see. If you call me, I am ready to work for you!  That's how much I believe in what I do and I treasure each and everyone of my clients as though they were my very own family.  Doing what is right for them and giving it my all is the standard by which I work.  

But, if you call me off an ad or walk into an open house and meet me, please know that I am also going to do the things that keep me safe and take steps to keep myself and clients safe.  If I ask you to provide your driver's license or name and phone number, don't think that I am a pushy sales person first, think that I am keeping myself safe so that I get home to my family safely.

We don't know each other, but I have a family and my spouse, children and grand children all expect me to come home at night and be there when they need me and it's also my job to see to it I do!

I work hard for my clients to give them fair and honest representation, because I am a professional! 

Please feel free to call me if you have Real Estate questions, I am Super Happy To Help!

Imagine IF!

This morning, someone posted an incredible video that really made me think about how often times we live in such a fast paced world, we don't stop and think about people and who they truly are.  We view them as obstacles in our path instead of people with emotions and real things going on in their lives too.  We are truly like a tornado blowing through our own lives and plowing through those things that mean so much to ourselves and others in our path.  Leaving destruction, utter chaos and and in some cases, harm to those around us.




Maybe society's own answer to the heaviness weighing on itself is to simply to slow down, look around and NOT judge!  Even if it is for just one day!

As I finished watching this video this morning, it stayed with me.  I realized, as I was rushing to a home inspection, I get judged every single day and I know I do it to others.

Because of my job, I have to portray a person that you can trust.  What does that exactly look like?  Does that look like the person I really am on my day off?  Hair not so cute, sweats, sneakers and barely or no makeup?  Would that be the person you would choose to sell you a home worth hundreds of thousands of dollars?  Probably not.  So, I conform, like many others.  I get my hair done regularly, my nails as well.  I rarely dress down during the week.  I drive a really nice car, I carry my fun and expensive tech tools and I enjoy them.  But, does that make me a better person?  All of this and I haven't even opened my mouth yet! Appearances do not serve us well!

Yet, when I work at home, I could be in my pajamas, I call you up and we have the exact same conversation as we would have in my office.  Since you cannot see that I need a shower and I haven't even brushed my teeth yet, do you judge me?  NO, I am the same confident and knowledgeable professional that you imagine on my business card! I am the same caring and sharing person that I strive to be every day.  Without seeing me, you buy into my character, bases solely on what I am giving you.

After I let the home inspector into the property, I headed back to my office.  I stopped at McDonald's for a quick cup of coffee and I see this older gentleman pushing his car out of the busy intersection and cars going around him on the left and the right.  Out of all the people that stopped to help him, there was a guy in a car that looked as though it was barely held together by duct tape.  He got out and he had long hair in a braid, a long beard like ZZ Top, flannel shirt and jacket and no gloves.  It is the coldest morning in Southern Utah that I can remember.  He gets out and helps him get the car out of the intersection. He gets it started for him and the old gentleman heads on his way. He acted as though it was all in a days work.  What a great man! Would I have pegged him for that type of person? Probably not to be honest.  But his character truly spoke to me!

I thought to myself, this is a prime example of judging one by their appearance and not their character.  It doesn't matter what people look like, or if they are in your way on a busy day.  If we were only judged by our character, imagine how much more positive things we could do!

Imagine if we could do that for just one day!  I would call it, NON-JUDGEMENT day!  A day to do nothing but absorb the world around you, recognizing that we all have our differences, our own paths to follow and embrace people just as they are.

I challenge you to have a "Non-Judgement Day"!  I know I am going to.